Home, Small Home

I really love my house.

Kent and I bought this house 10 years ago, the week of Morgan’s 1st birthday.  It’s 3 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms and just under 1700 square feet.  Our starter house.  We’re remodeled a bathroom, the kitchen, replaced windows, doors, every bit of flooring in the house, the a/c, the water heater, rebuilt the fireplace, repainted almost every room (some more than once), replaced lighting and plumbing fixtures and custom-made window treatments.  It’s decorated with a combination of new things that we’ve picked out together and hand-me-downs from family that we love, and even a few “refurbished” items thrown in… it’s home.

This house is also busting at the seams with 2 adults, 2 growing girls, a very large dog, a turtle and a whole bunch of STUFF!!  Closets will rain down upon you if you open the doors, all of the beds and couches have things stored underneath, our 2 car garage is barely a 1 car at this point and still piles accumulate everywhere.  I feel like I’m constantly purging and setting things aside for donation, so I’m starting to wonder if maybe it isn’t time for a bigger house?

Everything in me just wants to scream NO!!!

I had moved 8 times by the time I got to high school.  My husband and I moved 4 times in 4 years before we bought this house.  I hate moving.  I know everybody does, it’s not fun.  But just thought of packing up and finding a place to live, then unpacking and settling into another house just makes me want to go hide under my covers.

Then there’s the issue of contentment.

 Don’t love money; be satisfied with what you have.  For God has said, “I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.”  ~  Hebrews 13:5

I don’t want  a bigger house if I’m doing it just to move up in status.  I don’t want a  bigger house if it’s just to make room for all of our material possessions.  I don’t want a bigger house if having one is going to make me feel better about myself.

I just want to make sure that if we make the decision to upsize, that it’s God’s will, not my lack of contentment in what He’s already given me.

9 thoughts on “Home, Small Home

  1. I’ve struggled with feelings of discontentment since we bought our bigger house a year and a half ago. We knew we needed more space but because we were on a tight budget sacrificed a lot of “conveniences” to get it. Aaron and I were very committed to not being slaves to a big mortgage payment. Our house is great and we love it, but it’s taken a lot of getting used to going from the brand new house we built to this one which was built in 1910!

    The blog Simplemom and the other blogs in Simple Living Media, have helped me a lot with everything from embracing a simpler lifestyle to decluttering to making peace with the fact that we’re just never going to be the “jonses” 😉 There are lots of great archived posts if you find yourself with a free moment 😉

    If you decided to buy bigger I wish you lots of luck in looking for something that fits your family!

    • I love new blog resources, so I’ll be sure to check them out! 🙂
      I know what you mean though, we don’t want to end up with a big mortgage, unable to afford anything else, especially now that we’re homeschooling and committed to me not working for at least the next 10 years! We’d be starting again with the remodeling and all of that since we definitely wouldn’t be able to afford our dream house in a bigger size. It’s a tough decision… one we’ll probably be wresting with for a while! 😉

      • Here’s another one you might like. She’s a homeschooling mom of 3 kids, ages around 10-12 I think. 2 adopted, 1 biological. Interesting story. Good tips. Great philosophy about raising kids with as much grace and peace and calm as possible 😉
        http://www.steadymom.com/

  2. We moved to a much bigger house from a 2-bedroom townhouse and the extra storage, space and yard were a welcome addition. But I noticed I spent a good time cleaning and organizing rooms that are not even lived on. (We’re always in the kitchen after all.)
    And just when family got bigger (4 kids), we decided to give away our bigger furnitures (including our whole living room and dining room sets) and other personal effects and moved to a smaller house we called the Cottage. I decluttered mercilessly. Felt liberated, don’t miss the stuff at all. The kids have a few chosen toys so it’s easier to clean up nowadays. They manage better, and I think more creative and appreciative.
    But praying with you that God would give you clear direction and reveal His plan for your family and your home.
    xoxo, flo

    • I’m afraid if we moved to a bigger house it would just be an excuse to accumulate more stuff, so I try to keep things fairly streamlined but I’m afraid organization is NOT my strong suit! And now that we’re homeschooling the mess just keeps spreading despite my attempts to keep it in the kitchen.
      I just want to keep things neat and organized while still having some room for my growing kids and their friends to play… I wish it was simpler! 🙂
      Thank you so much for your prayers!
      Hugs,
      Desirie

    • My father is much the same. He was the driving force behind our moves, and my parents have moved many more times since I’ve moved out of their house. He comes from a very troubled background and I can’t help but wonder if he wasn’t always searching for somewhere that felt like home, without really knowing what home should feel like.
      I pray you know that NOTHING lacks in you, and that you find a place to rest and call home.
      Desirie

  3. I hear you. I feel the same way about ours. We’ve been here ten years too. But since we started homeschooling, we are busting at the seams. But then I think about people who can’t afford a home or those in other countries who have numerous families living in one tiny space. It’s a tough balance between contentment and needing space. Thanks for sharing this!

  4. I think it’s the homeschooling that’s put me on this fence too! Our stuff is just everywhere!! But at the same time I’m leaving in 2 weeks for my third foreign mission trip in 3 years and seeing those who have SO much less, like you mentioned, makes it so hard for me to want more.
    I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way, thank you for commenting 🙂
    Desirie

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